(SELF) Stop Comparing Yourself To People Around You
This is a topic that is extremely dear to my heart as it is something that I have struggle with a lot growing up and still do up to a certain extent. In today's era of social media, we are constantly comparing ourselves to the people around us. It has become so easy to compare ourselves to others that we literally just need to click on an app and you are bombarded with people who may supposedly be smarter, stronger or richer than you. Social media has given us the ability to access unlimited comparison with the people around us. For example, as a current 20 year old, when I look at some of the work that other 20 year olds have done, I instantly go into a mode of self hate and pity. I feel like I am not good enough and I never will be to able to achieve the goals that I've set for myself. To tell the truth, I tend to shrink the size of my goals at times as well. How do we tackle this when you are bogged down by these comparisons 24/7? First thing is that you need to realise that THIS IS YOUR OWN JOURNEY. Not someone else's. It is completely and wholeheartedly your journey. No two people can ever have the same journey cause each journey will have its own twists and turns. The lessons that you will learn will be at the pace that you need. When we start to realize that life is not a 100 metre sprint but more of a marathon where with every step, you are improving daily so that 6 months or a year from now, you don't even recognize the person that you are because you have grown so much. This is why I started Progressholic because I wanted people to fall in love with this process of developing daily. If you don't define what success means to you, you'll be forced to use the definition of others This is another important point to consider. For example, if you see an extremely wealthy person on your Instagram feed, you may tend to compare yourself to that person and end up in a downward spiral of pity. However, if making crazy amounts of money is not your definition, why would you even compare yourself to that person. Therefore, make sure your definition of success is clear before you start comparing yourself to everyone around you.