(SELF) 4 Ways To Reduce Social Anxiety And Open Up To The World
Social anxiety is something that a lot of people face in today's society. As someone who has lived his first 16 years of his life in a shell, I can completely empathize with your situation. That gut wrenching feeling that you get whenever you need to speak to someone new is something that I have grown up with. Therefore, we are going to discuss 4 ways to combat this and open up to the world.
Approach life with the mindset that other people are willing to meet you as well. Speaking from personal experience, I've realized that 90% of people are willing to meet new people. It is just that almost everyone is afraid to take the first step. Therefore, if you approach life with the mindset that other people are willing to meet you as well, it will make it much easier for you to approach people
There is always this fear of what other people will think about us. We assume that other people are going to constantly judge us. However, most people are too preoccupied within themselves to have the mental capacity to judge you. For example, you get rejected by a girl or a guy at a bar. People nearby may pay attention for a couple of seconds, have a passing thought about the situation and then just move on with their lives. <span>If you ask these people even a week from then if they remember the face of that one guy or girl who got rejected, they would be clueless. Therefore, realize that people are too preoccupied within themselves to judge you.</span>
Once you have said 'Hello', you have already won because you have taken a step towards combating your social anxiety which is a lot more than other people who will never take action. Surrender to the process and detach yourself from the outcome. Once you have made the effort to initiate conversation, you have already won, whatever the outcome.
Realize that this is a process of constant improvement and you will not become Mr or Mrs Extrovert overnight. You need to be able to enjoy the process of meeting new people and getting along with some as well as making a fool of yourself with others. For example, I challenged myself 4 years ago to make sure I meet one new person everyday. This helped me tremendously because I started enjoying the process of getting rejected, failing and then learning from it and getting better.
These were 4 different ways to combat social anxiety that I have used personally. - Devesh Tilokani, Founder & CEO Share this with someone to pass on the wisdom and help someone else improve in their journey!